Fontana, CA — So, my previous article focused on tips for women and helping them understand the wiring and make-up of men—thus, the true secret sauce to engaging with men romantically. This article will focus on the women this time—and what men can do to ensure their women remain in love and connected to them. While some of this can be disputed in other areas, I believe from years of conversation with women and talking to experts that these four areas are fairly bullseye to what is needed to sustain a long-lasting romantic commitment with a woman.
Here we go:
Love
This refers to the man’s actions. You could argue that the other points of emphasis are all wrapped up in LOVE. This also refers to his audible engagement with his woman. His words and actions are in sync, and the woman is clear that she is loved.
Priority
If there’s one thing that I’m clear about women, it’s that they know when they are a priority. They know if you’re just fitting them into your schedule to make time OR if you’re adjusting your life to accommodate them. The two scenarios sound alike, but they are very different.
Here’s an analogy to further explain PRIORITY. Let’s say that I have someone coming to visit me. I may tell them to park in front of the house, or if that parking area has been taken, I will tell them to park in the driveway. It’s convenient, and it provides easy access to my home. But when my son moved in with me, he had access to parking in front of the house, the driveway, and a garage door opener, and he could park his car within the garage. But before he received the garage door opener, I cleaned the garage to make room for his parked car. In this example, both people are being accommodated, but one has been much more than the other. Thus, PRIORITY here sheds light on the intentional recalibration of one’s life to allow for the substantive presence of another person. She knows if you’re doing this or not.
Cherish
Ah-CHERISH.
To love, protect, and care for something important to you. Another word that comes to mind is adore. Do you show your woman that you adore her? Remember, men—this is her wiring. She is designed to be at her best with you when she is being cherished.
Protect
This is not limited to personal safety but is absolutely part of it. The protection part also concerns the level of security the woman feels being with you. This doesn’t (necessarily) mean you need to carry a Glock around with you whenever the two of you are out and about, but does she feel confident that you support her emotionally? Can he not be the best version of herself occasionally and not be concerned if your love and affinity for her will dissipate? Does she have the confidence that you have the resources to carry the family through and meet the family’s basic needs—whether the financial load is exclusively on you OR that the load is shared and that you can uphold your end? Or, staying with finances for a second, that even if you lost your job, she knows that you are a grinder and will find a way to be resourceful to generate income respectfully to address the family’s basic needs?
Men—trust me on this. If you focus on these four areas with your woman, she ain’t going nowhere except by your side.
